Toddler keeps waking up

You might have been looking forward to finally sleeping well as your baby grew up, but that doesn’t always happen. Read our tips for a better sleep.

Why won’t my toddler sleep at night?

It’s not just babies who get you out of bed. Unfortunately, it's quite common for toddlers to have sleep problems too (Gottschalk et al, 2011). In fact, a quarter of parents say they have issues at night with their under-fives (Bathory and Tomopolous, 2017). Possible reasons for this include:

  • teething
  • nightmares, which tend to be more common from two years old onwards
  • hunger or thirst
  • illness
  • a wet nappy or needing the toilet
  • being over-tired at bedtime.
     (Byars et al, 2012)

What can I do to help my toddler sleep?

Start with the basics. Having a regular, calm bedtime routine has been shown to improve sleep quality (St James Roberts, 2009). A study of eight 18 month olds found that having a consistent bedtime routine led to improvements within three nights (Mindell et al, 2017). Their bedtime routine involved a bath, massage and quiet activities.

Don’t be in too much of a rush to try out a new toddler bed. Research has suggested toddlers sleep better if they stay in their cot until around the age of three (Williamson et al, 2018). You’ll have a lifetime of them in a ‘big’ bed so enjoy the reassurance a cot can give them for a while longer if that's what suits you all.

Some research also suggests that technology can have an impact on children’s sleep (Cheung et al, 2017). The Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health (RCPCH) recommends avoiding screens for an hour before bedtime (RCPCH, 2019).

Check out our tips for helping toddlers to sleep here.

How does napping affect my toddler’s sleep?

When some toddlers drop their daytime nap, they can find themselves tired earlier in the evening than before. If this is the case, you could try moving their bedtime forward. This has the added benefit of giving you some time to yourself in the evening if you’ve lost that nap break in the day.

If you don’t move their bedtime forward, your baby can become overstimulated. This will make it harder for them to settle at night. Later bedtimes have actually been associated with shorter night-time sleep (Mindell et al, 2016).

Some evidence suggests that napping beyond the age of two can mean your child will go to bed later and not sleep as well or as deeply (Thorpe et al, 2012). Yet given that all children have different sleep patterns, some will still need to sleep in the day (Galland et al, 2012; Price et al, 2014). Try to make a judgement on what works best for your child and family.

The effects of sleep deprivation of parents

Long periods of disrupted sleep can really affect parents, particularly if you are working or caring for other children as well. Sleep deprivation can leave you feeling more emotional or irritable, and affect your ability to concentrate. And as any sleep-deprived parent who has eaten half a packet of chocolate biscuits for energy knows, it can affect your appetite (Insana et al, 2015)

It’s important to look after yourself if your toddler isn’t sleeping well so you can meet the demands on your time. Try to cut yourself some slack and don’t make yourself do everything when you’re tired.

Relaxation has been shown to have a beneficial effect on a parent’s stress levels. So don’t feel guilty about doing something to chill out in the evening rather than tackling the DIY (Hakansson et al, 2016).

Keeping your energy levels up

To help get through the day, try to prioritise jobs according to what's really necessary. If you're back at work, you might be more productive in the mornings, so schedule important tasks for then. If you feel drowsy in the afternoon, try opening a window or going for a short walk. If you get a lunch break, and it’s possible, a 10 minute nap can help recharge your batteries.

Other top tips from other parents to keep your energy up are:

  • try to eat well during the day,
  • get organised the night before,
  • get plenty of fresh air and activity,
  • ask for flexible working and
  • don’t drive when you’re tired.

… and split housework evenly.

Research has shown that women tend to do more household tasks and more parenting duties even when both partners are working (Lewis et al, 2007). So it may be necessary to renegotiate roles and expectations to make sure both parents can enjoy an occasional lie-in to catch up on sleep.

This page was last reviewed in December 2018.

Further information

Our support line offers practical and emotional support with feeding your baby and general enquiries for parents, members and volunteers: 0300 330 0700.

You might find attending one of our Early Days groups helpful as they give you the opportunity to explore different approaches to important parenting issues with a qualified group leader and other new parents in your area.

Make friends with other parents-to-be and new parents in your local area for support and friendship by seeing what NCT activities are happening nearby.

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