There’s a lot going on in your nether regions post-birth. Here’s the information you need to make a good recovery…
The truth is your vagina probably won’t go back to exactly its pre-birth self. But for most women it will be near enough that this shouldn’t be a problem.
It’s very common to worry about feeling loose…
After giving birth, it might look wider than it did before and could feel looser, softer and more open. It might also look and feel bruised or swollen. But all of this should settle in a few days.
You may also find that your vagina feels drier, especially if you are breastfeeding (NHS, 2018a).
The next steps
It’s all about the pelvic floor exercises to make your vagina feel tighter again and prevent bladder problems. Here’s how:
- Squeeze and draw in your anus and close up and draw your vagina upwards.
- Do it quickly, tightening and releasing the muscles immediately then do it slowly, holding for as long as you can (but no more than 10 seconds).
- Repeat each exercise 10 times, four to six times a day.
- It might help to imagine you're stopping a poo, holding in a tampon, or stopping yourself from weeing.
If you feel like these exercises aren’t helping, speak to your GP. Postnatal incontinence is common in women who have just given birth. You might need a referral to a physiotherapist if you get this (NHS, 2019).
When it comes to dryness, a simple lubricant could help when you’re ready to have sex again (NHS, 2018a). Here are some more tips on how you can get your old sex life back after birth.
You might have a small scar when the tear or cut has healed but stitches should dissolve by themselves.
"The main thing you want to watch for is infection, so look out for signs like stinging or an unpleasant odour."
The next steps
Crushed ice, gel pads, paracetamol or ibruprofen can help ease the pain. Paracetamol or Ibuprofen are fine if you’re breastfeeding (The breastfeeding network, 2021). It’s also important to keep your stitches clean, changing pads regularly (with clean hands) and washing daily (NHS, 2018a).
Your health visitor should ask you how you’re healing each time they see you (NICE, 2006). Do raise any concerns you have if they forget to ask.
Weeing after giving birth
The idea of weeing for the first time after you have a baby can feel scary. First, it’s sore and second, you can’t really feel what you’re doing (NHS Choices, 2015b).
Let your midwife know if you’re finding going for a wee particularly difficult. If you haven’t gone six hours after giving birth, they might suggest a warm bath or shower (NICE, 2015).
The next steps
Drink plenty of water and ride it out for a few hours. If you still can’t go after a warm bath or shower and drinking plenty of water, you might have your bladder volume assessed. You could potentially need a catheter (NICE, 2015).
After you’ve had a baby it’s very common to leak urine when you laugh, cough or sneeze (NHS, 2018a).
The next steps
Again, it’s all about the pelvic floor exercises. But if you’re still suffering with incontinence issues three months after you’ve had your baby, you could speak to your GP and ask for a referral to a physiotherapist. You can also visit the Bladder and Bowel Foundation website.
Piles (haemorrhoids) are very common after birth (NHS, 2021). They are swellings containing enlarged blood vessels found inside or around the bottom (NHS, 2019b).
The next steps
If you feel uncomfortable, let your midwife know and they can give you some ointment (NHS, 2021). If you experience bleeding or a severe, swollen or prolapsed pile, see your GP.
You might not need to poo for a few days after you have given birth, but don’t let yourself get constipated. If you’ve had stitches, you may be particularly concerned. Rest assured it’s very unlikely that you will break the stiches or open up the tear again (NHS, 2021).
The next steps
It’s recommended to eat plenty of fresh fruit, vegetables, salads, wholegrain cereals and wholemeal bread, and drink plenty of water (NHS, 2021). If necessary, you might be given a gentle laxative.
You might also feel better if you hold a pad of clean tissues over the stitches while doing a poo. If you’re worried that things aren’t getting easier, speak to your GP (NHS, 2021).
About 5% of women get faecal incontinence after giving birth for the first time (Woodley et al, 2020). This is when you’re unable to control the passing of liquid (diarrhoea) or solid poo until you reach a toilet. Some people also involuntarily pass wind (Bladder and Bowel Community, 2021).
Many people feel embarrassed about speaking to a health care professional about their concerns. Yet talking to someone can lead to support and treatment. Keeping a bowel diary of what you eat, toileting, and accidents, can mean you have information to hand when you speak to a health professional (Bladder and Bowel Community, 2021).
This page was last reviewed in November 2021
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