Read on for everything you need to know about co-sleeping safely with your baby.
Co-sleeping: the basics
The safest place for your baby to sleep in their first six months is in a separate Moses basket or cot in the same room as you.
But at some point in the first few months after having a baby, around half of all parents in the UK co-sleep or bed share with their newborn (Blair and Ball, 2004).
It’s worth knowing the do's and don'ts when it comes to co-sleeping - whether it's something you end up doing with your baby or choose to do.
Is co-sleeping safe?
Although Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is rare, there are some situations when co-sleeping with your baby is not recommended because it's unsafe. These include:
- Falling asleep on a sofa or chair with your baby, which can increase the risk of SIDS substantially.
- If you or your partner smokes (even if this is not in bedroom).
- If you or your partner have been drinking or taking drugs (including medication that might make you drowsy).
- Your baby was born premature or had a low birthweight (less than 2.5kg or 5.5lb).
- You feel excessively tired.
- Your baby has a fever or any signs of illness.
(NICE, 2015; Lullaby Trust 2018a)
Co-sleeping more safely: positions and tips
If you do co-sleep with your baby, here are the recommendations for safe sleep:
- Make sure your baby can’t fall out of bed or become trapped between the mattress and wall.
- Keep pillows, sheets and blankets away from your baby to avoid them over-heating or covering their face and obstructing their breathing. You could use baby sleeping bags instead. Use different togs for different seasons to keep your baby at a comfortable temperature all year round.
- Avoid letting pets or other children into the bed at the same time.
- Always put your baby to sleep on their back.
(Ball, 2006; Blair et al, 2009; Blair et al, 2014; Ball and Blair, 2017; Lullaby Trust, 2018a; Lullaby Trust, 2018b)
Follow the same rules if your baby’s sleeping next to you in a bedside cot or side sleeper too.
Co-sleeping and breastfeeding
Lots of women worry that they’re going to drift off while they’re feeding their baby at night. Meaning they end up co-sleeping when they don’t mean to. If you’re concerned, try one of these ideas for breastfeeding at night:
- Get your partner to stay up with you for support, especially in the early weeks when you might be at your most tired.
- Avoid the sofa if you feel like you’re going to fall asleep.
- Try reading one of those books that's been on your list forever.
This page was last reviewed in February 2018.
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Find all the latest research-based evidence about infant sleep, including co-sleeping, on the Baby Sleep Information Source (BASIS) website.
See Unicef’s guide for caring for your baby at night (updated in 2017) here.
See Unicef’s guide to co-sleeping and SIDS here.
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