Looking after a baby when the parent is unwell

When no one else is available to help, here is some information and tips that could help make childcare a bit easier for a parent who is not feeling well.

Breastfeeding and bottle feeding is still possible

Even when the parent has a common illness like a cold or flu, breastfeeding continues to support the baby’s health. This is thought to outweigh the possible risk of passing it on to the baby (NHS, no date; Yeo et al, 2022). In fact, breastfeeding will help to protect the baby against getting the illness (UNICEF, no date; Yeo et al, 2022).  

Breastfeeding is generally considered safe and beneficial when the mother or breastfeeding parent has an infection. In most cases, there is no increased risk of transmission of the infection to the baby (Yeo et al, 2022).

Take extra care with hygiene (NHS, no date; UNICEF, no date):

• Wash hands before feeding
• Try not to cough or sneeze on the baby

Speak to a healthcare professional before taking medicine. They will be able to suggest medicine to take that will be safe for the baby while breastfeeding (UNICEF, no date). The Drugs in breastmilk fact sheet has more information on taking medication when breastfeeding.

Another option is to express milk, then a partner, family member or friend could feed the child the expressed milk. In which case, wash hands first and clean and sterilise the pump after use as usual.

Mothers and birthing parents with chronic diseases should talk to their doctor. They can weigh up the advantages and disadvantages of breastfeeding or expressing while using any medication they need to take (Sokou et al, 2023).

If bottle-feeding, make sure everything is cleaned and sterilised as normal. Read our tips on all aspects of feeding, including how to safely prepare a bottle-feed.

Other ideas for looking after a baby when unwell

Unfortunately babies aren't the most sympathetic companions when a parent isn't well. Here are some ideas to try to keep them occupied while the caregiver can sit back and watch. It can help to set up an area where everything you need is close by first – for example tissues, a drink, snack, toys etc.

• Put on an audio storybook
• Video call family or friends
• Drawing with crayons and paper
• Supervised play with a bowl of water and cups
• Banging a wooden spoon on saucepans
• Easy sensory play – for example, putting dry pasta in a tub with different cups and containers for the baby to pick it up with

Looking after yourself

It can be difficult for a parent to look after themselves when feeling unwell.

It’s important for them to take care of themselves as much as possible. Ideas include (Barkin and Wisner, 2013; Mind, 2024):

• Take any medication needed – some parents find that setting a reminder or alarm can help.
• Seek medical advice if necessary, even if it feels like it’s not something you have time for.
• If a trusted person is able to look after the baby, take the opportunity to rest and sleep.
• Accept any offers of help even if it’s not with childcare, for example with shopping or help with a pet.
• If living alone, let a family member or friend know you are unwell so they can check in on you.